A lot of gurus talk about surrender. Some new age self-made law-of-attraction experts talk about letting the universe take over. Others talk about going with the flow. But what does it all mean?
It means to listen to your inner desires and acting upon them. There are many examples of people wanting to do something creative like paint or play guitar in a rock band, but not doing it all and being stuck in a 9-5 job that they hate. It’s no wonder that there are so many people taking anti-depressants.
When relating to our analogy of being a character in a giant virtual reality game, it means to let the actual player play. The player, or your higher self, has got some plan or strategy. This plan is being executed through you – the character. The character takes on strengths and weaknesses as he/she goes through many tasks and challenges. As an added challenge, there is something else that develops in the character. It’s called ego.
A strong ego will side-track the character and may prevent accomplishment of the plan. It may also interfere with the inner desires. When this happens, people call it a set-back. It is not really so – if you realise that this is just a game, then it becomes only an experience. Maybe it’s something that was needed to get back on track.
The character in the game cannot see the full picture. The actual player can. It’s like when driving, you can’t see what’s around the bend. Now, if you elevate yourself high above the road level, you may be able to see what lies around the corner. It’s the same with your higher-self. It pays to listen to your inner voice, no matter how small it may seem to be. By the way, it may seem small only because it may be overshadowed by the ego.
Anyway, so how do you surrender? First of all, through acceptance. Accept what has happened, as you cannot change it. It is what it is. The worst thing you can do is start the “what if” thinking. This has no end to it and serves no useful purpose.
Second, do not dwell on the mistakes of the past. If the damage has been done once, there is no need to go over it countless times in your mind. It serves no purpose other then satisfying the ego. Learn from the experience and let it go.
Three, get in touch with the player, or your higher self. There are number of techniques like meditation, yoga, relaxation, or doing something that brings you joy. Spend some time in nature, offer kind words to strangers, help someone… There are no clear cut rules here – let your imagination flow.
Four, live in the present. Too many people live in the past or the future but are absent from the present. Everything happens in the now. As per the first point, do not dwell on the past, what’s done is done. Learn from it and move on. Also, do not fret about the future. It will take care of itself. You can plan and prepare yourself now if you know what you want, but it’s still done in the present. Then, if you do everything in your ability and current knowledge of the situation, you can rest easy. Sure, things will happen that are outside of your influence from time to time. However, there’s not much you can do about them and there is no need to worry. Worrying by itself will not stop them from happening.
Last, but not least, learn to love yourself. Take time to rest and de-stress. Reward yourself every now and then. Do not deny yourself things that make you happy. Know that you are worth it. You cannot truly love someone else until you learn to love yourself.